Peeing 001

I’ve tried but I am no longer waiting until I have a 101 article ready about peeing. I want to address a few things that My Friend Timmy said to me recently. Specifically:

I wish there weren’t the news stories of girls being assaulted in bathrooms by trans men (sic, see below).

Here’s my good news for My Friend Timmy. There are no news stories. Zero. Zilch. There are no news stories of trans women sneaking into ladies’ rooms to assault girls.

That may sound unbelievable to you, as it certainly would to My Friend Timmy, but I’ve been researching it since Timmy tried to find that middle ground with me on March 4.

There may be one or two cases, depending on how you count, of trans women being accused of such, but no convictions have happened yet. They’re either not finished cases, or they happened in private bathrooms. And that means zero cases of this happening in public restrooms. Zero. Zilch. Check my facts; maybe I missed one or two.

The focus on public bathrooms is not an effective way to deal with the problem of child sexual abuse. Even cis people don’t tend to abuse people in public restrooms; it’s people known to the victim, at the home of the victim or the abuser.

Footnote: A trans woman is someone who presents as a woman — likely assigned male at birth. A trans man is a someone who presents as a man — likely assigned female at birth. They both want to pee where they’re the least likely to get assaulted.

P.S.: Men who want to enter women’s spaces to rape them do it all the time, without checking their outfit or the sign on the door first.

The real take-away here? People like my friend Timmy “wish” there weren’t all of these trans people abusing people. And there are not, wish granted. These people don’t even know the proper terms for trans people but are justifying their vote because they’re so informed that they know it’s going to save us from a fake monster under the bed. That’s detached from reality. Or then again — is it?

Even if the monster is fake, the votes have real effects in the world. There almost 600 anti-trans bills being considered the U.S., right now. None of them are making anyone safer, and many of them are making me and people like me less safe. It’s not a matter of debate — it’s a matter of lies and truth, and I’m sick of hearing it.

Ignorance has a cost even if the ignorant won’t be the ones to pay it.